When you have tough decisions to make, especially when those decisions involve family I have used one question to ask myself which often clarifies the choices and assists in making a final decision.
And the question is……………… Do you think you will feel as strongly as you do today about the issue or choice you are making now as you will in 5 or 10 years? If you think you will feel as strongly, then you can feel confident with your decision today, whether you are deciding whom to invite or other matters.
If you are not completely sure or have second thoughts about your feelings on the issue, then it’s best to take a step back, consider other options and realize expressing your feelings and communicating your thoughts to the other key decision makers is important in itself and creates the ground work for how to resolve other issue that might come up in the future.
If you are both so strong in your opposing views and can’t reach a mutual agreement or meeting of the minds, then it’s best to turn to a professional counselor or clergy to help you resolve the matter.