You might wonder, what is the ideal guests list. Is there such a thing? Yes, and here’s what it looks like.
- The ideal guest list is a group of people that you enjoy their company and want to spend time with one on one .
- They are also those whom you have shared important milestones in your life.
- They are the people that you want to be close to in the future.
- They are the people you work with and want to expand your work relationship into friendship as well.
- They are the extended family members you enjoy seeing at holiday.
- They are your college buddies, sorority and fraternity members.
- They are the time honored next door neighbors and grade school friends forever.
With this criteria, there are some hard choices ahead for sure when either space, budget, or family priorities need to be considered. Here are some measures brides and grooms employ to right size their guest lists.
You can think of having an evening formal black tie affair and discourage children from attending, as a way of trimming down the guests list to children 16 and older.
- You can create an A and a B list. Using an early response date for the A list and using the space created by the A list guests negative responses to send out a second round of invitations at least 4 weeks prior to the wedding date.
- Decide to trim your family invitations to the first cousins and not include their extended families.
Finally when you have tough decisions to make, especially when those decisions involve family I have used one question to ask myself which often clarifies the choices and assists in making a final decision.
And the question is……… Do you think you will feel as strongly as you do today about the issue or choice you are making now as you will in 5 or 10 years in the future? If you think you will feel as strongly 5 to 10 years in the future, then you can feel confident with your decision today, whether you are deciding whom to invite or other matters.